No need to argue with conventional horse people about +R
Feeling like conventional folks are watching you with a condescending eye? Avoiding going to the barn at busy times? Wishing you could just do your thing with your horse and not worry about what anyone else was thinking or going to come and say to you about reinforcing your horse with food?
You’re not alone, but by polling R+ equestrians we’ve compiled a list of helpful responses, see the link at the bottom of the page and check out the comments) that can help these situations go and feel a whole lot better! (and if you contributed, many thanks to you too!)
To begin, in these situations, no matter how uncomfortable we feel, research shows arguing doesn’t pay.
No need to argue with conventional horse people about +R. It only causes them to become more entrenched against it. (+R is for humans too ) Instead, we are more likely to make an impact if we:
SHOW them what is possible with +R!
SHOW them happy well adjusted +R horses!
SHOW them +R horses that are mannerly around food!
SHOW them how calm, connection and confidence can be created with +R!
But no need to argue. It won't convince them any more than leading a horse to water will make it drink.
It’s a waste of our energy too and only tends to make them more determined to espouse their own beliefs. Let's do our best to refrain from judging or criticizing others, even if they are. A little empathy can go a long way.
Compassionate Equestrian, BE ENCOURAGED, you can BE THE CHANGE YOU WANT TO SEE IN THE WORLD!
We are all on our own journey, and it just takes the time it takes for transitioning to +R or even considering it to occur. Usually, it's that special horse that leads us to kinder and more compassionate training and life changing results. It might be seeing your horse...that turns the tide in someone’s heart and mind. What a gift! Happens a lot to our Compassionate Horse Click members when they take their horses places, other people become believers! (want to be around other +R peeps who share heart felt experiences similar to you and your horse? Melissa hast a LIVE clinic coming up in NC in OCT, and its a great opportunity to do just that. Auditors and participants rave about these clinics. You're invited to come see what it's all about. Details will be sent soon. Regardless...
Melissa would love to know more about your personal journey with +R and horses.
What changed your mind or attracted you to R+? Tell us your story! https://www.facebook.com/groups/1742650405954835/
“And check out the comments in this post for Fab Ideas on dealing with +R Dissenters.”
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