🐘 What Elephants Teach Us About Trust—and What That Means for Our Horses

compassionate training Apr 23, 2025

                           Elephants, Enrichment and the Power of Positive Reinforcement

I came across a fascinating study recently (thanks to Rachel Bedingfield 🙏) that beautifully supports something many of us have seen with our own horses:
When animals associate their experiences with something positive, they become more optimistic and resilient—even in uncertain situations.

Here’s what the researchers found:

🧠 Elephants used past experiences—and the emotional value of those experiences—to make decisions about ambiguous situations.

🐘 They showed a clear "positive bias":

  • They approached an ambiguous positive cue 3x more often, and
  • Responded to it twice as quickly compared to a cue associated with a negative experience.

In contrast, when the ambiguous cue was associated with something negative, they were slower and less likely to engage.

🐴 Why This Matters for Our Horses

This is the emotional groundwork of what we do every day with compassionate, positive reinforcement (R+)...

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💙 Reflections from the Round Pen 💙

enjoy horses gratitude Apr 16, 2025

Standing by the round pen, I found myself deep in thought…“Should this horse be further along by now?” I wondered.

But then I reminded myself, “Nope, he’s exactly where he needs to be, considering his journey and where we started.” %

And yet, a small voice crept in, “But what would other people think if they didn’t know the whole story? Would they think all of this training has been a waste?

Just as quickly, my heart and soul answered: “NOT!” beating back that ego-driven doubt.

🛑HARD STOP.

Thankfully, my higher self took over, reminding me how far this horse has come—from terrified to trusting, from panicking over basic handling to calmly accepting healthcare. This horse, who once feared even a light drizzle, now has the confidence to be ridden in the rain. Watching him in this moment, I couldn’t help but reflect… 

  • What if we all focused on how far we and our horses have come instead of how far we still have to go?
  • What if we focused on the Gain, not the Gap (thank you,...
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Interested in positive reinforcement but don't want to leave your Conventional Horse Training Skills behind??? 🐴

Uncategorized Apr 02, 2025

You don't have to! You can use positive reinforcement selectively and begin to experience the power of positive while enhancing your connection, and improving your horse’s trust, confidence and well being. No need to wait to dip your toe in and get started.

 
You likely spent a lot of time and money đŸ’° on your current skill set and training and chances are you’ve got some good things going on with your horse already.


Exploring compassionate training techniques doesn’t mean forgetting everything you already know, BUT IT CAN HELP YOU CLICK WITH YOUR HORSE IN A WHOLE NEW WAY.

Discover the power of positive reinforcement!
 
You don't have to abandon your current skills. Simply add positive reinforcement to your training toolbox and watch your understanding of each other and the bond you share grow. đŸ’™

My Advice for conventional equestrians interested in exploring R+:
 
  • Choose one behavior, just one and shape or reshape it using reward based training.

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Want to Make the Most of every Training Session with your Horse? 🐴✨

Uncategorized Mar 19, 2025
Let's turn your training sessions into playful adventures!
 
Here's the secret: Reflect, Reevaluate, and Reshape! đŸ§ đŸ’Ą
  • Before: Set your intentions and visualize various training plan options. (Let go of expectations)
  • During: Stay present, keep it light hearted and playful and adjust your approach as needed based on your horse’s responses.
  • After: Reflect on what worked and what you’d like to see happen differently and remember to be grateful for the time that you GET to spend with your equine friends!
Remember, it's all about having fun and experimenting!
 
Create a positive and rewarding experience for both you and your horse…Have fun and build a bond that lasts a lifetime!
 
PS Compassionate Horse Click has a ton of resources to help you do this very thing. Message Melissa for Details: +1 (910) 471-5445

+R for Practical Horse People Live Clinic in Burgaw NC April 4-6 https://www.compassionatehorseclick.com/clinics-and-events
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Ever Wish You Could Get your Horse to Drink?

Uncategorized Mar 12, 2025

Regrets from the road...On a recent trip with a young horse recently, I watched my own horse drink readily and frequently while the youngster wasn't so sure of doing this on the trailer. Oh how I wish I had thought not only to condition drinking on the trailer for the young horse and also regretted having not put it on cue. Thankfully, it was a short trip and I brought salt for his food.

BUT, what a great winter weather activity and one that can be done in small spaces too. 

Considering training your horse to drink on cue???

🪣It can be done through:

  • capturing the horse drinking and rewarding with food after they are finished, and eventually adding a cue.
  • Or it may be done by shaping the behavior through selective bridging and feeding as the horse get's closer to the water.
  • Of course, it can help to have a horse that is already thirsty such as one that has recently consumed salt, has just been worked, or is coming in from the sun on a warm day etc. 
  • You might be wondering do I cl...
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Is Sending your Horse to a Trainer a Bad Idea?

Uncategorized Mar 05, 2025

Have Reservations about Sending Your Horses to Professional Trainers including those Who use Positive Reinforcement? Totally understandable. Sometimes it's the best thing ever and other times....well you've heard the stories. (this is first post in a series about myths and sending your horse to a trainer)

As horse owners, we know how deeply connected we are to our equine friends. The bond you share is unique and special, filled with moments of joy, challenge, and growth. But when it comes to considering sending your horse to a professional trainer, it’s completely normal to feel a mix of excitement and apprehension as you want the best for your horse. You might worry about your horse’s well-being, the training methods used, or even what others might think. Such a valid way to feel.

❇️  Let’s take a moment to explore some myths surrounding professional training, particularly those that use positive reinforcement, and hopefully ease your concerns.

**Myth 1: Professional Trainers Only Use Hars...

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Positive Reinforcement for Practical Horse People - Relationship and Results!

Uncategorized Feb 25, 2025

✨ Calm, Confident Connections: A Positive Reinforcement Clinic Experience for Compassionate Equestrians ✨

Trust, clarity, and consent—these are the fundamentals of a powerful horse-human relationship. Whether you're new to R+ (positive reinforcement)/clicker training or experienced, there's always room to refine behaviors, deepen your bond, and teach essential skills with kindness.

🌿 Positive Reinforcement for Practical Horse People is a unique clinic designed around YOUR goals! (whether under saddle, or on the ground – all disciplines welcome) Before the clinic, you'll share what you'd like to focus on, and together, you’ll experience progress while you’re here and a take home plan for continued success. Relationships with results—that’s our mantra!

📅 April 4-6, 2025 | R+ Clinic Schedule | Burgaw NC

🐴 Friday Afternoon: Arrive, settle your horse, and join our evening gathering for intros, dinner, and discussion about your intentions, dreams and goals.

🐴 Saturday:

✅ 2+ coaching/tr...

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This One Thing Could Make All the Difference… in the Success of R+ Training with Your Horse! 🐴

Uncategorized Feb 19, 2025

In positive reinforcement (+R) training, we often believe we’re reinforcing one behavior, but our horse may have an entirely different idea about what they did to earn that reward. This little misunderstanding can make a big impact on your training results and your relationship with your horse!


✨ Ask Yourself: What does my horse think they are being reinforced for? Why does my horse think they got rewarded? ✨


Taking a moment to consider this question can be a total game changer building our confidence and that of our horses too. When we align our intentions with what we are doing and cuing / what the horse perceives, we can create clearer, more consistent communication—and that means faster learning, less frustration, and a more trusting connection.


If this tip helps you, we’d love to hear about it!: What was happening in your training, and what shifted when you tried this perspective? ⬇️


Happy clicking! 💙

Melissa

PS Clinic dates and registration links can be found herehttps://w...

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🌸 How can we fully enjoy our horses… when riding may no longer be an option?🌸

Uncategorized Feb 12, 2025
Sometimes, it’s not about what we *do* with our horses, but how we *show up* for them. As compassionate horsewomen, there are times when riding isn't possible or fair—to us or our horses. What’s an equestrian to do when “the dream” doesn’t match reality?
So often, I hear, "I want to enjoy this horse, but I need it to DO X." It's a real and honest feeling that, if the horse can’t do X, we’re often conditioned to think we need to move on to the next horse.

I hear this often, especially from those of us facing aging—whether it’s our own, our horse’s, or both. Riding may be our heart's calling, yet life asks us to adapt, which can be tough from an emotional and/or identity standpoint. And we need to consider what’s best for the horses and our own safety too.
My Auntie’s Story
I’ve seen it firsthand with my Auntie, a lifelong horsewoman in her 70s. Even though riding isn’t possible for her due to family responsibilities and physical issues, her bond with her horse has deepe...
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🌟 Finding It Hard to Stay the Course? You’re Not Alone. 🌟

Let’s talk about the truth of R+ training with horses. Maybe someone told you:
  • You’re discouraged because you’re not doing it right.
  • You haven’t been doing it long enough or with enough repetitions.
  • You’re not a professional.
  • Or... your horse is just “different.”
Spoiler alert: most of them are. And while some of this may be true, I’m here to tell you something important—what you’re feeling might actually be a normal part of the learning curve.

If you’re out there doing this on your own without guidance or mentorship, it’s not surprising that it feels hard sometimes. You’re not alone in doubting yourself or the process. We’ve ALL been there. Even those of us who have been doing this for years—and have seen firsthand the amazing, life-changing results—experience doubt occasionally.

Here’s the thing: just because it’s uncomfortable, unfamiliar, or challenging doesn’t mean it’s not worth it. The juice is 100% worth the s...
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