Hi Gentle Trainer,

If communication with your horse sometimes feels harder than you'd like, please know that you’re not alone. Most of us arrive here because we care deeply about our horses — and want our communication to feel clearer, kinder and rooted in mutual consent.

My name is Melissa Deal, founder of Compassionate Horse Click. If you’ve arrived at this page, chances are you’re looking for a way of interacting and being with your horse that feels clearer, kinder, and more collaborative — while still being effective.

Many of us come to this work after moments of confusion or frustration. We find ourselves wondering why something that seems so simple doesn’t feel that way, or why our horse is hesitant, tense, or disengaged. Over time, it’s easy to start questioning ourselves — or our horses — when communication doesn’t land the way we hoped.

What I’ve learned, through years of experience with different horses and through one very influential horse that put me on the positive rei...